About Me

My Story: The Bullet Point Version

My name is Mary Catherine Goulet.

I don’t know the exact day or experience I had when I recognized I was highly sensitive to people and situations.

Since 1997, I have been working offline and online interviewing individuals, coaching and speaking about a process I created called Go With Your Gut.

I do what I do because I love it and it works.

I’m a single mom living in San Diego, CA with my two daughters, Sterling almost 12 and Portia 9 ½.

I love this online stuff, but my girls are my delight. They make me smile.

Oh yeah, I’ve been on the Dr. Phil Show three times! “How’s that workin’ for ya?”

 

 

My Story: The Somewhat Unabridged Version

As I said above, I don’t know the exact day or experience when I recognized I was highly sensitive to people and situations.

Sensitive meaning, I would feel a sensation or get an uneasy feeling about someone or something. There were times in my life that I just “knew” certain things like, life direction and events. I know many of us have noticed them and if we pay attention we’re actually experiencing them all the time.

For example, my senior year in high school, I had planned to audition for the school play even though I had not joined drama in the prior years. I just knew I had to. I got the female lead and the drama coach asked where had I been the last three years.

Into The World

At 17, I knew I wanted to move from Minnesota to New York to study to be a Broadway dancer. I didn’t have any fear about it because I was pretty independent and just felt I would land on my feet. Now, I’m sure that was out of naivety but it worked. Imagine the classic girl in pigtails carrying a suitcase (they didn’t have rolling bags back then. How did we do it?) through Manhattan.

I needed a job so my roommate set up an interview with Fidelity Investments where she worked. I started as the receptionist and moved into New Accounts to pay my rent while taking dance classes at night.

The Corporate World

Eventually, I realized I didn’t feel passionate enough about dance to tough it out and I liked the intellectual environment of Wall Street. After 18-months, I moved to Los Angeles to be closer to my family. As luck would have it, I was offered a job at Union Bank from a gal who I worked with at Fidelity.

From Union Bank, I went to Paine Webber and then ultimately to Dean Witter as an Institutional Bond Salesperson. It was a great experience and I met some great people with whom I am still friends with today.

Marriage, Real Estate and My Gut

I met my first husband at Dean Witter. Now, here’s where feeling confident in my life direction challenged me. It was easy to follow my instincts and move to New York then to Los Angeles. But, when I added emotion in a relationship, financial stability, etc… to the mix – that clouded my judgment.

See, I knew I didn’t have long-term interest in working on Wall Street. Don’t get me wrong, it was a great job, good money and really interesting, I just knew it wasn’t my mission in life. So, what was I going to do for work?

I got engaged.

My Dad was always in real estate and construction so it became a family business of sorts as I got my real estate license and opened a firm to keep the money in the family.

On my wedding day, before walking down the aisle, my Dad turned to me and said, “You know you don’t have to do this.” Dang! But, I did it because “what else was I going to do?” He was right and I knew it at the moment, but I got married anyway.

Three years later I wasn’t married anymore.

Fast forward six years, and I did it again! This time I had two children. We made it 11 years. I knew I needed to be stronger and not marry him but, I let it go too far and got in too deep and I didn’t see a way out.

Career Change and the Beginnings of the Go With Your Gut Process

During that marriage I changed my career direction. At this time, there were a string of deaths among my family and friends that dropped me to my knees. I decided to leave real estate and become a Holistic Health Practitioner. I spent the next two years in school and did massage and readings for clients.

On New Years Eve 1996 what would become the Go With Your Gut process began to take shape.

My future husband and I had a couple over for New Year’s Eve. When they arrived at the door the wife was clearly upset. She had been having trouble at work. I was feeling in a jovial mood and said, “Come on in, I’ll read for you and maybe that’ll help.” Well, her husband was blown away as I described what her office looked like, the personalities of her colleagues and the conflict – and what she could do about it.

He said, “You have to do this for other people!” He owned a hair salon and called me for three months asking if he could send people to me.

My response?

“I’m waiting to find out what God wants me to do with my life.” Duh!

Developing the Go With Your Gut Process

That year from March through December I read for hundreds of individuals helping them identify their potential and life direction. I helped them make decisions about a relationship, career move, financial issues – you name it. Throughout those discussions, I started hearing a theme.

I noticed that client after client would say, “I’m so confused.” By the end of the session we had clarity about the issue.

I would tell them, “You’re not really confused you just don’t like your options.”

After that I started double taping the sessions, one for me and one for them, and making a copy of the worksheet I created for them to take home. I transcribed the tapes and out of that I continued to hear and work out the Go With Your Gut process.

In 2004 I published the first edition of Go With Your Gut: How To Make Decisions You Can Trust and in 2011, I was fortunate to publish the Second Edition.

All those times I knew something – my Gut was warning me. It warned me about marriages, partnerships, friends and opportunities, but, too often, I didn’t trust it. I call it selling my soul, and that never feels good.

It has taken years to unwind the consequences.

Since, I received the wisdom of the Go With Your Gut process, I am an earnest student of it. I now trust my Gut, completely.

Finally, a process on how to trust your instincts!

Each one of us can strengthen our awareness to our Gut and we must during this challenging time.

This process will help you know how to make decisions you can trust and achieve a more fulfilling life in your finances, career, relationships and more.

Trust Yourself,
Mary