Everywhere I turn I see an article on social media. Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, Digg, etc… I’m on
Facebook.com/MaryGoulet and also on Twitter under Mary Goulet.  I really only have put my toe
in the social media pool because it seemed like one more “thing to do” and with the MomsTown Network,
the two radio shows I host a week, my Go With Your Gut presentations, and traveling as a spokesperson
my eyes would glaze over with the thought of diving in.  But, I’ve realized social media is
a quick, simple and effective way to stay in front of friends and clients.
Off to Twitter!

Now more than ever we simply can’t afford to make a bad decision;
a decision we’ll regret. We can only regret ego and heart-based
decisions. Making decisions from our ego is a habit and makes us
feel we have control over the events in our lives. We have an
agenda and we’re emotionally attached to an outcome.

Having too much time to make a decision can be a problem especially
when the right answer is given to us first. But, with uncertainty
about job security, the slow economy, possible relationship issues
and the fact we can’t “buy” our way out of the consequences of a
poor decision we freeze in analysis paralysis for fear of making a
bad choice. So what do we do? Our Head/Ego jumps into gear and starts
weighing our options in an attempt to protect us. The reason this
isn’t a good strategy is because our Head/Ego is fear-based and any
decision based on fear sets us up for regret. So, how do you make a
decision you know is right?

By using the Four C’s:

Confidence: Be confident in how you make the decision
Clarity: Achieve clarity by removing emotional attachment to an outcome
Conviction: Have conviction in the “right” choice
Courage: Act with courage even when you have no proof

Confidence:
The best decisions come from a neutral place, when you just know.
We’ve all experienced the clarity of “something tells me” and “that
doesn’t feel right”. But when we’re attached to the outcome of what
we want, we’re afraid what others might think or what we don’t want
to happen, we struggle to trust our instincts. Gain confidence in
what you know even if it makes you uncomfortable. You will very soon
know instantly what to do or not do in any given situation.

Clarity:
The reason we regret decisions we make is because we’re emotionally
attached to an outcome and heavily invested in an agenda. It’s natural
to want to better our lives but how do we do that? We think we know
what steps to take to get what we strive for in life (the operative
word is think) but we make the best choices by what we know and they
can be backed up by analysis and what we think but not the other way
around, ever.

Formula for Making the Right Decision:
Know — Do
and
Know — Think — Do

Formula for Making a Bad Decision:
Think — Do

Conviction:
The only way to become convicted in your choices and live the
life you really want to live is to admit how you want your life
to be. We default to not believing in our dreams because we think
they’re just that, dreams. When in actuality we can’t have a dream
unless it’s possible for us, that if we commit our talent and time
we’ll have a chance at success. So, write down your dreams and let
your decisions guide you to achieving them.

Courage:
We don’t get courage when we need it we instead get the circumstances
first and the courage after the fact. Courage is built on blind faith.
Trust and do what you know even when you don’t know what’s around the
corner.

Just received a link for an article Q & A.

http://www.elitestv.com

As I mentioned in my last post, we often hear
people say they go with their gut and many books
are written about trusting your gut and intuition.

Here is my take on how you can know if you are
actually hearing your gut or some other voice
that could be steering you wrong.

We make a decision from our
Head/Ego, our Heart, or Our Gut.
Now, how do you know which one is guiding you?

Here I make it very simple;

Our Head/Ego is fear-based and speaks in sentences.
If you listen to your thoughts or what you’re saying
to someone else about your particular dilemma you’ll
hear the language of the voice that most guides you.
So, with the Head/Ego you will be saying something to
yourself or others that will include questions that
start with, But…, How? Why? When? What if? It also has
an agenda and an emotional attachment to the outcome of
any given situation. Also, your Head/Ego will want to control
li8fe circumstances through manipulation, justification
and rationalization. Our Head/Ego is not to be trusted
for clear choices. We will always reget a Head/Ego choice.

Our Heart is very sentimental and will speak words that ooze
sentiment, compassion, empathy and sympathy, which is all good
and can be very powerful. However, beware of the seduction of
teh Heart and its romantic illusions and promises.

Our Heart will follow the more influential of the Gut or our
Head/Ego. Our Heart is not a leader it is most definetly a follower.
Do not follow your heart.

Now, for our Gut. This is the best way to make a decision. The key
is to be sure you know the language of your Gut so you are sure you
are making the right decision at the right time so you don’t suffer
any regret. So, how do you do that? how do youknow fdor sure you’re
makming the right decision? Know the language and vocie fo your Gut.
it is really quite simple, actually super-duper simple.

The Voice of Your Gut

Here is the BIGGEST clue to know for certain you are making the
right choice at the right time, for the right reason in your life.

Your Gut speaks in a STATEMENT of five words or less, period.
Five words or less is a TRUTH about your life not something you
want to be TRUE.

If the message or guidance you are getting is more tha five words
than it is not your Gut.

Always speak from your Gut knowingness and you will always be ub the right place at the right time.